Three girls met an old acquaintance and his friends at a rock show.. The guys ask girls to join for dinner after the concert and they agree. A few drinks were poured, a few jokes were cracked, everything was moving along as normal. One guys started forcing himself on one of them girls.. In a panic she grabbed the first thing she could and smashed it into his head. This is the thread of one of most influential woman oriented movies released recently - Pink. The girl was shamed as a prostitude for being open minded and drinking with guys.
This is the story of modern girl everywhere. We live in a world where still majority of people considers a girl who talks to boys, wear short dresses or drinks as "easy". And when these girls say no the other party gets offended like we have insulted them in some way.
Recently I have come across an incident where a girl was blackmailed by a guy who agreed to fix her phone that he would post her nude pics public which he obviously searched in her phone. And she being the epitome of feminism that she is asked him to go ahead and do it. Being a person from an older generation than hers and being brought up with all the Indian standards which says girls should not even talk loud, my immediate reaction was shocke and I was worried for her. But I was really surprised and impressed with what she and her friends achieved next. They were ready to take this incident public and started roasting this guy on social media. "We do not negotiate with perverts." And we should not.
It's high time we reverse the way we teach our girls. In the name of culture and community we have sacrificed a lot of girls, because from what we have been taught so far if anyone touches you without your permission it's still your fault. We have always silently beared the stares, the whistles, the brushing, the stroking, the grabbing, the list goes on. And suffering in silence has not provided any benefit so far. This silence has given these degenerate people courage to do more atrocities.
Where does it all stop? Why does being a female means suffering in silence? Why are there unnecessary restrictions for women when men can freely flash their "thing" in public? Why is virginity only sacred for girls? Why is masturbation only allowed for boys?? Why is breastfeeding in public such a shameful act? Well there are a million questions if you start asking. It's not possible to find a solution to all these in a day. But there should be a start somewhere. And I found that glimmer of hope in the courage of these group of 'New gen' kids. Say whatever you want about them but they know one important thing, to respect a someone's personal choice, let it be a or a girl. Gender should not be a matter here. And I applaud these gentlemen and ladies for their courage to go public and roast that pervert.
I am not saying that men do not get molested or abused. But they don't get tortured as much as the girls, they don't get shamed as much as the girls. Because we live in a world where men think they can do whatever they want and all their actions are always justified because they are MEN. I mean isn't that the most stupidest thing you ever heard. An innocent girl child gets gang raped and there were still some people saying she deserved it because she would have grown up to be a bitch or a terrorist. Seems like these perverts can tell fortune too.
Just think who you are before you judge anyone. Just ask yourself will it be wrong of you if you do the same thing that you shame someone for. Being a man does not give you the right to do anything. And personally I do not care about your moral wellness. By this writing I do not expect you to change because you are wired this way. But if you feel even for a min, when you put aside all male ego of yours, that you are wrong then maybe you should try to change. Your mother, sister, wife, daughter would appreciate it.
I hope the next generation continues to develop this sense of self respect and educate the rest of us. Maybe there will be a day where every human are treated equally and not shamed by self praised superior beings!
-M
